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I Still Can't Get Myself Going

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Sometimes in our healing process we've come farther than we think, but we're waiting to feel better to do things. In fact, it is the doing that makes us feel better. Sort of like work. You had no choice there; you had to go and are able to say, "I love my job." With true anhedonia, you wouldn't be able to say that.

There's so much more I could say about the interests i.e. It's hard to go out with married friends after you've lost a spouse, etc. That's one of the reasons I'm suggesting a grief support group to reassure you of what's normal to feel. We also have grief chat rooms going on now. They are lead by a staff member for people to share their experiences and find support. We've also got articles and all kinds of areas to explore. You might try that. The worse it can do is make those home hours go a little faster. But you also may get a sense of where you personally are in the grief process and what you need to do to take that next step.

But again, if several of those things I listed above are still significantly affecting you, please talk to your doctor or a professional counselor about them.

Thank you for allowing me to respond to you. It does get better. But everyone's path is different. And you mentioned two years; are you near an anniversary time? Subconsciously, we always have a harder time around those times, especially within the first few years.

I hope this is helpful to you. Please check our site out more. As I said, the worst it will do is fill the hours, but it may be helpful to read some of the things others have gone through or visit one of our chat nights. I don't have the schedule but we can get it to you if you'd like.

Blessings,

Deb

Debbie Sims is a Certified Clinical Nurse Specialist in Adult Psychiatric Nursing, has a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She maintains a private practice in counseling but her devotion is to her position as Editor for Beyond Indigo an Internet web site for those who are grieving.